Tame the Temper
October is named “National Sarcastic Awareness Month” in an attempt to help everyone understand both, positive and the negative, effects of sarcasm. Sarcasm in person can be easier to identify. A mocking sneer, a raised eyebrow, a sardonic tone and in extreme cases, a rash of slow clapping are signs of sarcasm. But even misdiagnosed sarcasm can be easily transmitted to unsuspecting listeners, and one derisive remark can quickly spread into an outbreak. The scourge of sarcasm affects many, but with few to admit.
How do we confront epidemic of irony, the plague of shark? We need to understand the enemy, educate ourselves of its ubiquitous, as it goes un-noticed. Actions happen according to the way one is programmed by God and if this becomes an acceptance, then there is no guilt, pride, hate, envy or even the trace of self-esteem outburst.
When everything falls apart, chase away the blues and laugh as if life is in the moment, spontaneously, in full acceptance. It’s worth a step out of the shadows to confront friendly and supportive approach. As mentioned in ‘Asserting yourself’ by Bower – think what’s wrong, make your request and predict an outcome. There, you get your submissive character to open up, less threatening and dominating, yet making point clear. The temper here needs to be tamed with arousal fear of possessiveness, sarcastic thoughts, and criticism with rejected feelings in times of dismissive ‘brushed off’ requests. Be it a kid, teenager or an adult – sooner or later, any time in life you do face such a situation!
When worries go haywire, it’s time to get the ‘Red Alert Signals’ to stop the sarcasm, criticism, disdain, gloomy, despised and all those sorts of malign feelings popping on surface with a big Negative impact. This is the time to keep cool in the hottest of situations. The temper traits swings to shoot up and down with the unwanted emotional reactions, fear, anger, insecurity, anxiety, limited choices or inability to see possibilities, mental imbalances, negative attitudes, missing enthusiasm and so on.
It’s the time to put perspective that ‘this too shall pass’ can be liberating to ease mind. When a person loses perspective, she forgets that some things are beyond our control. If you are stuck in traffic and worried that you would be late, you curse the cars around you and try to snake in and out of congested lanes, you lose the perspective because you have no control over such a situation.
Anger takes charge and these angry outbursts become a way of expressing feelings in vain. Calm and cool disposition defuse the bubbling emotions within. It’s the inborn traits of being highly sensitive, self absorbed, defiant, aggressive personality who is prone to outbursts with ‘anger triggers’ outwardly or inwardly feeling alone, lost, rejected, avoided, unjustified. The sarcastic remarks makes it way, conflict makes way with differences and opinions vary when it’s the peak, when you blow up and its time for taming the temper and gear back to control.
People often shout from frustration or fear as a warning sign for violence. In the book ‘Taming the Dragon in your child’ the author says that teenager’s anger outbursts due to an imposed a curfew within– fuelling the inferno. Eastman focus on the new generation teens whose drive towards independence is slowed down with a parental protection and this is when sense of humor and understanding approach makes clear visions.
Arguments lead to sarcastic remarks and criticism, when it happens you ignore it or take the other person for a brisk walk instead. Self-monitoring cools down the anger or sarcasm or the criticism approach within and dealing with such a situation needs a jump-start of activities to stay calm and composed, like: socialize, make connections and never be a loner brooding over the worries but move out in the open making connections. Meet friends, visit fond places, mix with family and this will increase the feeling of strength and reduce the sense of helplessness. The ‘live in present’ attitude will combat worry – effectively.
Get up – Jump start: Defuse the toxic worry the moment you feel it wrapping it around you. Get up, jump-start from where you are seated and just swing in action. Call a friend, walk around, watch a show, and get hooked to some activity. Just remember, the longer you let worry last, the harder it becomes to escape.
Let music flow freely in your hearts: Music is the speech of angels. It’s hard to worry and sing at the same time. Let your mind vibrate and your soul stirs to the sound of the music. Music is a therapy, which triggers peace within and reduces the tension and anxiety while often improving performances too. It’s worth a pack up of troubles in old bag and smile!
